The ego aspect of self — which you can think of as your personality self — can become very quickly irritated when we latch onto control and dominate every detail of our experience with an iron fist. This state of being leads to feelings of ‘life is so hard’ and ‘everything is a struggle’, which then becomes a feedback loop of grueling effort for which it seems there is no escape.

The issue is that we are asking the ego to do more than it was designed to do.

The ego has one primary purpose. And that is, to keep you focused in your experience. That’s it.

“All the ego has to do is keep you focused in your physical experience and go along for the ride. That’s all that it’s designed to do. That’s all that it needs to do.” — Bashar

But we human beings are very good at overloading the ego with burdens, tasks and concerns which are not really its job.

We pile jobs on the ego, until it becomes aggravated, testy and sometimes downright mean.

Cranky Ego

The ego which has been overburdened by our wanting to control sounds like this:

“Oh, okay, so you want me to make sure that this happens.”

“Oh, so now you think I should handle all of this too.”

“What!!!??? And now you believe that it’s my job to see that this is handled?!”

“Well, guess what, I’m going to show you what it’s like to be overwhelmed. I am going to make you think that all of this junk that you exhaust me with is something which must be done. I am going to trick you into believing that this is all something that you need, even though it’s just what you want. Then you can see what it’s like to be oppressed by the desire to control.”

And this is when we find ourselves feeling as though we are going to lose our minds. Emotional maturity and choosing perspective takes a backseat to the aggravated and irritated ego.

Surrender is not giving up control, it’s giving in to the control you already have.

When I find myself exhausted by all that I need to accomplish, I revisit my toolbox of wisdom to find balance.

And I practice the art of surrender.

Surrender is giving up thinking that the ego has to manage everything. The irony is that when we relinquish our need to manipulate, coerce and effort, we have more control over our life and destiny. It just doesn’t feel that way because most of us learned to manage our experience from the opposite perspective.

But, the divine intelligence that we all embody — which is actually each of us but from a higher and broader perspective — knows exactly what is going on, where we are going and how we are going to get there.

Practice surrendering to this part of you — and you will have more control of the outcome, more ease, and more peace.