When considering the “mirror analogy”, it’s important to remember that some belief systems are so deeply embedded within you, that often you do not even realize that they exist. For example, on a concsious level, you might say to yourself, “I feel worthy” but your reality is acting as the mirror and telling you otherwise. In this case, it’s important to further examine both how you treat and speak to yourself on a daily basis.
At one point, I found myself on the receiving end of a reality where the reflection was saying “You need to work hard, very hard! And you will not be appreciated for this hard work. In fact, your efforts will be ignored, dismissed and taken as a fantasy by everyone around you”. And I said to myself, “How could they (input husband, children etc) be so insensitive to how hard I work and how much I do every day?” And I beat my head against that wall until the epiphany hit. I was speaking to myself that way! Not necessarily on a conscious level, but subconsciously. I caught myself with an underlying tone of “work harder”, “you are not enough”, “I don’t care if you are tired, keep going”. And that is when everything began to change.
Just like most people, I had an endless list of “to dos” that I focused on and it never felt like I was “finished” or that I had enough time to accomplish. The reflection had remained the same despite working myself to exhaustion. And I knew that the list wouldn’t change. So I decided that no matter what I had on the list, I would take the time to rest, to do something kind and loving for myself, and to consciously acknowledge my efforts and value my contribution. I realized that I had nothing to lose by choosing myself first, and everything to gain. And guess what?! It worked! The reflection slowly shifted as I learned and practiced a way of speaking to myself with gratitude, respect, and unconditional love.
As you put this into practice, keep in mind that you have spent years speaking to yourself one way, and reality doesn’t shift on a dime. So don’t be discouraged if you still see some of the old reflection. This doesn’t indicate that it isn’t working or your a failure. Remember, this is physics. Reality doesn’t judge. But, the transformation of the old to the new takes some time to manifest to your ideal reflection. Also, when something in your life “goes wrong”, for lack of a better term, and you perceive this as your “fault”, then you must continue to give yourself the love and compassion you would give others. That’s the point. The love you have for yourself must be just as unconditional as the love you have for others. Plus, we are here on this journey to learn. For soul growth. From a higher perspective, there are no mistakes, just learning.
I have known this concept of reality being a reflection for years now, but it took time for me to evolve it into a knowing. So have patience with yourself. If you are judging yourself for not getting it “right” then you are missing the point. Only unconditional love for yourself and everyone else. ❤️